Published on: 2nd January 2020
With the New Year now in play it is sometimes easy to expect too much of ourselves and jump in at the deep end. Changing our diets, starting a gruelling exercise regime, saving more money etc the list can go on. January doesn’t always have to be “doom and gloom”, there are things that you can do for yourself to help improve your mood and your wellbeing.
It is important to make sure that the goals and targets that you set for yourself are SMART, otherwise we could be setting ourselves up for failure.
Be clear about what it is you want to achieve, asking yourself a few key questions can help with this such as:
- With you?
How will you know that you have achieved your goal? Think about what you might hear, see or feel, what changes will occur? Think about the evidence, for example, being happier is not evidence, however, engaging in hobbies that you enjoy and spending more time with your loved ones is as this is something you can evidence.
Is your goal acceptable to you? Think about the cost to you, this isn’t just financial but also things like time, effort etc.
Does your goal work for you, doe sit meet your needs and is it relevant to what you aim to achieve.
Think about a deadline and when you want to achieve your goal by, keep a realistic and flexible timeline that you can stick to.
Goals are a really nice way to help keep us focused and allows us to challenge ourselves to help reach our potential. By putting in place realistic goals and boosting our behaviours it can help to improve our mood and how we feel.
Breaking the cycle
reduced activity →low mood →low energy, lack of motivation
It is often the case that the less we do, the worse we feel. Then the worse we feel the less we want to do.
By increasing our behaviours and boosting our activities in a SMART way we can help ourselves in improving our mood. Just remember to be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much too soon. If for example, a marathon runner had been out of training for months we wouldn’t expect them to run a marathon tomorrow. Slow, steady and realistic progress is the way to go.
increased activity → improved mood →more energy, increased motivation
But what if I’m not motivated?
When we feel low or anxious motivation can often become difficult and sometimes we notice changes in our behaviours. We may withdraw from things by making excuses to not go or put things off and say “I’ll do it tomorrow”- but how often do we do it tomorrow?
By making SMART goals for yourself you can help to build motivation and structure.
By engaging with tasks, activities etc it helps us build a sense of achievement, success and confidence which then supports our motivation to continue. The key is to be kind to yourself and not to set yourself up to fail.
Some other tips to help with motivation include:
Think about why you are doing what you are doing- why is your goal/change in behaviour important to you
Take an “outside-in approach” think about how you feel once you have completed the task or goal and use that to help focus your motivation
Take the time to think and reflect
Once you have completed your goal it is important to take a moment to consider how it went. This will give you the opportunity to understand what worked/went well, what didn’t go so well, what would I do differently next time? All of this information allows us to then move forward and improve our SMART planning to make it more suitable for us as an individual. Notice and good as well as the bad- praise yourself for what went well (we are often bad at doing this!) and then think practically about the things that didn’t go well- do you need to rethink your future goals moving forward?
Where can I get extra support?
steps2change offer short term psychological support for individuals living in Lincolnshire. We support people who may feel depressed, anxious, worried or stress. If you would like to access our service you can do by self-referring via our website or by calling 0303 123 4000 or by speaking to your GP who can refer to us on your behalf.